There are four groups of people who walk into your home: strangers, guests, friends, and family.
Ruling out strangers– because they are usually the ones knocking on your door to sell something– I think most people do pretty good job at moving people from the guest to friend category, but so often we get stuck moving people from friend to family— even when those people are flesh and blood.
How many times have you visited a family member and felt like a guest in their home? Being a guest may feel pleasant, but the truth is the boundaries between guests and family are drastically different.
If we want to connect with others and build deep relationships, we need to learn how to invite people into a closer relationships.
Fridge Rights is our family’s answer to this problem.
What are Fridge Rights?
Fridge Rights means you don’t have to ask. You have a standing invitation to open our fridge and help yourself to anything inside.
This is a pretty big invite if you ask me.
First, it means there needs to be something in your refrigerator to offer. Second, it means you have to be ok giving away ANYTHING in the fridge. It also means you have to be willing to let people into your fridge regardless of its condition. The reason is Fridge Rights, unlike milk, does not have an expiration date.
Family is family.
When we invite people into our home and offer them Fridge Rights it usually takes them off guard, but after a few visits, that guards come down. By then, they know where to find everything they want and need including spoons, sugar, creamer, snacks. They know we are serious. They have a right to take and enjoy anything in our kitchen.
The real fruit is that people realize Fridge Rights is not limited to our kitchen. Fridge Rights extends to our hearts, our time, our everything.
Fridge Rights is a picture of how Christ invites us to get to know him. He says, What is mine is yours. Often, we test Him thinking He is holding things back from us, but Jesus proves faithful every single time.
All He has— all He is— is ours. There is no expiration date on life in Him. The church should look like this too. At least, that’s what I think.
Fridge Rights are an integral part of our family and how we share life with others. It serves as an invitation to deeper relationship.
What do you think it would look like if you gave Fridge Rights to your friends. Really truly giving those rights— not assuming but declaring them. People often need to be told. Do you think it would deepen your relationships? I challenge you to try it this week. Leave a comment and let me know how it goes.
PS. Fridge Rights extends to this blog. You are family. You have my heart and my time. There are several ways you can access that relationship. The best is by subscribing.
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